By David Pillow
I’ll soon
be heading off to Germany and Switzerland, with plans to see castles, clocks
and churches. We’ll start with the famous
Marienplatz Glockenspiel in Munich, where nearby I’ll enjoy a Bavarian Doppelbock
at the Hofbräuhaus ; then
we’re off to stay in Lauterbruennen—Switzerland’s Valley of The Waterfalls; a giant
cuckoo clock might make the itinerary when passing through the Black Forest to
Freiburg; we’ll tread the philospher’s walk of Hegal in Heidelberg; and we’ll
close off with the castles on the Rhine River at St. Goar.
The clock is ticking down, and I
find myself busy with preparations, purchases upon purchases, German lessons,
and exhaustive planning. My travel companions are quick to resist: “Let’s not
plan too much.” They’re planning for relaxing spontaneity; a melding of self
with new lands of enchantment. My
half-sister, Jozeffa, anticipates “soaking” in the cultural surrounds; I’m
thinking that “soaking” sounds slow.
I love to travel, but I’ve always
been, as my buying habits might suggest, an anxious traveler and obsessive
over-planner. I pack heavy with
purchases designed to take care of every problem; in contrast, Rick Steves
advocates traveling light and buying yourself out of problems after they occur. It’s an approach that I’m working on, but
doesn’t come naturally. The
obsessiveness is a double edged sword, of course. It aids in being adequately prepared, but it
is also takes its toll. I’m already
looking forward to taking a vacation from vacation planning, and getting back
to more focused work.
So how do you plan your
vacations? Do you make hour by hour
itineraries? Or do you prefer a relaxed,
serendipitous, let-the-vacation-come-to-you approach? As you consider that question, I invite you
to consider an interesting distinction between “the experiencing self” and “the
remembering self” made by Nobel Prize winner, Daniel Kahneman. Simply put, the experiencing self is who we
are in the present moment: reacting,
feeling, seeing, hearing, and thinking.
The remembering self is the person in the past, seen through the lens of
filtered memories.
At first, it sounds like a trivial
distinction. But let’s look at an
experiment conducted some years ago where Kahneman teamed up with physicians
conducting colonoscopies. With patients
awake for the procedure, the researchers made numerous assessments of pain during
the colonoscopies, and then again one week after. At the risk of oversimplifying the study, imagine
two patients: Aaron and Brandon. During the colonoscopy, Aaron reports pain on
a 1 to 10 point scale. Aaron reports a
5, then a 7, an 8, then a 4, a 6, and near the end an 8 (very high pain). Aaron’s procedure lasts 5 minutes. Brandon’s procedure runs 5 minutes longer for
a total of 10 minutes. In the first 5 minutes he also reports a 5,
then a 7, an 8, then a 4, a 6 and then an 8—the same pain levels reported by Aaron. But after the first 5 minutes, the procedure
turns out to be less painful in Brandon’s case.
In the last 5 minutes he reports a 3, a 5, a 4, a 2, and a 3.
Now clearly, Brandon got the worst
of the deal. He had all the same pain as
Aaron in the first 5 minutes, but he also had 5 more minutes of pain—even though
the pain near the end was reduced. Brandon’s
experiencing self was worse than Aaron’s experiencing self. But things become quite interesting a week
later. When asked to look back on the
experience, Brandon reports that the procedure, as a whole, was less painful than
what Aaron reports. Brandon’s
remembering self is better (i.e., less painful) than Aaron’s remembering
self. What we learn is that those last
(i.e., recent) memories of the experience loom large, and become a lens through
which the entire experience is stored in memory. The experiencing self can definitely differ
from the remembering self.
Kahneman (in one of his talks) asks
the following: Do you plan your
vacations in service of your experiencing self or your remembering self? I find
this an intriguing question. Contemplating
it, I find myself wistfully conceiving of this experiencing self as mindful, absorbed,
serene, slow, serendipitous, and connected.
I recall my one previous European vacation running around London with my
son and daughter—trying in vain to get our money’s worth from our pre-purchased
London passes. In the midst of trying to
check off my list of sites to see, we happened upon an open market full of
marvelous cheeses, breads, pastries, and olives from various parts of Europe. It was a wonderful moment of serendipitous
discovery where time seemed to slow, leaving me feeling better in touch with
the foreign culture I had journeyed to see, the land, and my family.
In contrast, my first inclination
when construing examples of the remembering self is to think of those moments of
frantically rushing around London and Paris from venue to venue, snapping
pictures of statues, and marking them off them off the list as on a scavenger
hunt.
Of course, the German philosopher Immanuel
Kant would easily recognize that I’ve constructed faulty, confounded examples based
more on sentiment than reason: both of
my previous accounts are products of my remembering self; the memories of food
in a market and of taking pictures of statues are cognitively synthesized
representations of the past. One of
those representations simply feels much warmer than the other.
I find it tempting to conclude that
my travel companions are correct: that
slower is better; that less is more. But
I can’t give up that easily, and have one more European vacation story to
tell.
After a long morning at the Louvre
in Paris, my family decided to return to the apartment to relax. I instead, set out on my own for more site-seeing. Up to that point, we had spent the last week
and a half in large museums and castles where it was too easy to get
separated. I continuously found my wife
wandering ahead of me somewhere, and either Jon or Amanda behind me. I would frequently get caught up in enjoying
the art and the architecture, and then turn around to find myself alone. So I would hunt one or more them down, then
I’d lose myself in the art, and the search process would start all over
again. Differing interests, tastes, and
travel philosophies (reisen philosophien)
create differences in pace, thereby creating distance between travel partners.
Off on my own, I took off for Les
Invalides. I moved slowly through displays
of medieval swords and armored knights. Then
I quickly bypassed the World War I and II era equipment to make my way over to
Napoleon’s tomb. Across the street at the
Rodin museum, I took a brief moment to contemplate a small version of The Thinker. And
then I was off to the Pantheon, loving the ability to take each moment at my
own stride without concern for coordinating schedules or finding others; I just
saw what I wanted and then moved on. I
remember those 2 to 3 hours fondly and warmly as well.
With each adventure I take, I
increasingly appreciate that a “less-is-more” approach to travel facilitates
the feeling of being absorbed in the experience. But I think differences in interests and pace
require appreciation as well. My fast
passed adventure to the Pantheon gets replayed in my head slowly and warmly as
well. It was like going to see a great
action flick and being totally absorbed in the movie.
So….if you were traveling and—like
Drew Barrymore’s character in 50 First
Dates—you knew that you would not
recall any part of the experience the next day, how would you spend the
day? Personally, I would start the day
in the same way that I do now. I like to
get up early and get out the door with a clear plan in mind. My travel pet peeve is starting the day with group
machinations about formulating a plan.
But once off, I think I’m slowly learning to let the day takes its own
course, allowing for a little serendipitous discovery here and there. That only happens, of course, when the day is
not overscheduled, and there’s no need to overschedule a day not
remembered.
Interestingly, my wife takes a very
practical perspective. She simply tries to keep herself from being exhausted at
the end of the day, leaving her with pleasant memories of whatever she did as
opposed to memories of being worn out.
Pragmatically, I think that’s a pretty good of a philosophy—one that
attends to the needs of the experiencing self, and thus simultaneously
maximizes returns for the remembering self.
Prost!
(Cheers!) Let me know your travel philosophy.
And may you travel far, and bring home the best of memories!
Like you, I like to get up early and get going. I'm a mixture of planning the route, then just getting off-track and wandering a bit. Some of my best times in London was simply just wandering through Covent Garden with no particular place to go.
ReplyDeleteBecause of your du diligence, this trip is going to happen, while I have barely done my homework to read through the travel books. It will be interesting to see how we travel together. I envision the best of both worlds. You have made arrangements for things that would be surely sold out if we waited to do them on the spur of the moment, while I bring a way of taking time, the idea of less is more. Of course, there may be times when we simply go our separate ways and talk about how our days went over dinner and a German beer. I can hardly wait.
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